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Alcoholism in teenager is a serious topic since the new foundation of any nation is being attacked by the deadliest of all poisons. Teenagers are the future of this world if at that tender age they get into alcohol addiction their entire future will be affected and along with them the future of the world. The reason why teenagers are so susceptible to alcohol is their hormones and added to that is peer pressure.

When you see alcoholism in teenager and begin to wonder what could have led the young chap to take to alcohol, think of all the stress these youngsters are under these days. Stress could be in the form of academic pressure, social pressure or it could just be depression due to loneliness. Study shows that a large number of teenagers in America are suffering from depression; this could be true for most parts of the world. This depression in turn leads to substance abuse and alcohol is one of those substances commonly abused.

Alcoholism in teenagers begins at social functions, when a new student tries a drink just to get high. This is considered very much in fashion and if anyone refuses he or she is bullied or nagged till they get embarrassed. This is the reason that education about abusive substances is very important at the high school or school level. Once the teenager knows the destruction that can happen because of this substance called alcohol they may be able to say no to it.

Most teen age crimes happen under the influence of alcohol; this makes alcoholism in teenagers a very serious issue. Driving under the influence of alcohol or DUI is one of the most common teenage offenses in the world. This can put a teenager behind bars, cost him or his parents a lot of money and he could loose his driving license. DUI may be serious but its not half as serious as some of the other gruesome and hideous crimes committed under the influence of alcohol. This could be anything from **** to murder, when done by a teenager it destroys many lives including his.

Alcoholism in teenager has been the subject of grave speculation since every one wants to put an end to it. Counseling by teachers and parents together can help these teenagers find the right direction. If their mistakes are met with humiliation and rejection then they take to substance abuse. Parents must therefore be supportive in anything that the child does guiding the teenage kids with a firm but loving hand.

Fashion must never showcase addiction as the in thing; this is misleading for those youngsters who live by the example of their celebs. At the same time teenagers must be made to understand the difference between fashion, style and harmful addictives by their teachers and parents. Alcoholism in teenagers has to be tackled at grass root level and everyone must contribute to this by education, laws and good parenting. Teenagers must remember that they are harming not only their bodies but also their intellect by abusing any substance.



By: Muna wa Wanjiru

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A new year is here, and with it comes new beginnings. For many parents, one resolution they make is to improve their family relationships. There is no better time than right now to take positive steps in your relationship with your teenager.

Yet, like many other New Year resolutions, some parents fail to accomplish the parenting goals they set. Often, leaving a parent to feel inadequate and discouraged with their relationship with their teenager. Here are five common mistakes parents make when setting parenting goals for the New Year:

1. Starting with too many goals

It is easy to want to have the best relationship with your teenager, and go hog wild with creating new resolutions. However, I have seen parents become overwhelmed with great expectations, only to fizzle out from undue stress. If there are many areas you want to improve, prioritize your goals and choose just one to start with.

2. Having unrealistic expectations

The first rule in goal setting is to make your goals reasonable. If your goals are too ambitious, then they may be unattainable. And the entire reason for having goals is to accomplish them. Trying making simple goals for a short period of time rather than making complicated ones over a lengthy period of time.

3. Having meaningless goals

As a counselor, a parent will enter counseling with the goal of “have a closer relationship with my teenager.” While this sounds like a simple goal, it is too broad. How will they know when their relationship is “closer?” What does “a closer relationship” mean? Do they want to be able to talk more with their teenager? Are they looking for less conflict in their relationship? When making parenting goals for the New Year make your goals very specific. That way you will be able to tell if you are accomplishing them.

4. Trying to control everything

Remember you can only change you, not your teenager. It is okay if your teenager is resistant to your intentions. In fact, you may want to expect some confusion, especially if your relationship has experienced a lot of conflict. You have no control over how your teenager reacts. If your relationship with your teenager has been strained, then it will take time to rebuild trust and your relationship.

If you feel like there is such great conflict between you and your teenager that you just cannot seem to break through, then I encourage you to find a qualified professional counselor that can help you work through it.

5. Giving up

Parenting teenagers is hard work. It can suck the life out of you. Often well meaning parents commit to making positive relationship changes with their teenager without recognizing the time commitment involved. Awesome goals are made in January with the expectation that significant differences will be visible by June. Then, when our hopes are not met we feel inadequate and just give up the fight.

Positive and improved relationships do not just happen. They require patience and commitment to see the task through.



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jenn. asked:


Hey. To all the parents of teenagers, I would like to ask you what you would have done in this situation. I am a thirteen year old girl in eighth grade, and I do consider myself exceedingly mature for my age. My friend Chrissy invited me to go to our other friend Matt’s house. There was going to be adult supervision, and about 6 of my other friends were going to attend. We were going to go at about 6 o’clock at night, and probably stay until about 9:30 or 10 o’clock at night. When I asked my parents if I could go, they absolutely went into hysterics. They said it was “absolutely inappropriate”. They said “What the hell is wrong with these kids’ parents that they would let them do this?” They said they didn’t want me going to a boy’s house. They seem to think I will have sex, do drugs, drink, etc. even though I have proved to them time and time again that I am a very responsible person. My friends don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. I am asking, what would you have done in this sutation?

Being a single parent inherently comes with challenges. As a counselor, often single parents ask what mistakes they need to avoid when parenting their teenager. Many single parents are concerned about any consequences of their divorce that could negatively affect their teenager. Here are some common mistakes to avoid:

Mistake 1: Lying to them

Honesty is always best, especially when parenting teenagers. First, today’s teenagers are quite savvy and know when they are being conned. Also, dishonesty only destroys trust, which is something that is needed most during this transitional time.

Mistake 2: Avoiding discipline

Wherever there is a lack of any discipline, there is manipulation. Dictionary.com provides this definition of discipline, “Training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior, especially training that produces moral or mental improvement.” Notice the emphasis on improved character rather than punishment.

Mistake 3: Eliminate any structure or routine

Divorce is a transitional time for everyone involved. Each person’s routine is adversely affected. A structured home environment filled with routines and chores provides a sense of order and ownership. This is beneficial particularly if there is chaos resulting from the divorce.

Mistake 4: Forget about them

As a single parent, you are forced to wear many hats and fill many different roles – often simultaneously. In addition, you are in the midst of trying to provide a stable home environment, work full time, and recover from the emotional adjustment of a being a single parent. In the midst of this, I encourage you to find some time to be intentional on spending time with your teenager on a regular basis. Help them to see that you are available to them, and concerned about any needs they may have.

Mistake 5: Continue fighting with your former spouse

If a marital relationship has been turbulent, then many teenagers anticipate a divorce will bring about a much needed sense of peace. However, if conflict continues after divorce has been finalized then your teenager may experience some emotional difficulty adjusting to the divorce. As much as you are able, try to keep any discussions with your former spouse cordial and focused on your teenager.

Mistake 6: Don’t get them any outside help

Divorce can affect teenagers in many different ways. Some may open up emotionally and sharing their feelings freely. However, others may withdraw from family and friends and become reclusive. Others may enter into some behavioral problems that may have not been there before. If you have any concerns about how your teenager is recovering from the divorce then I encourage you to seek out a qualified professional counselor.

Mistake 7: Assuming nothing is wrong

Another common parenting mistake is to assume that your teenager has been completely untouched by the divorce. There lives seem undisturbed as if the divorce is a minor incident in the tapestry of their lives. And this is true for many teenagers. However, there are others that will give the appearance that all is well, when in fact the opposite is the case. They may do this to save face for them, or they can react this way to give their parents one less thing to worry about. Communicate with your teenager on an ongoing basis about his/her feelings about their new life and its challenges.



By: Terre Grable

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