all parents respond please! (teenagers who have a computer too)?
Wednesday, May 27th, 2009 at
4:15 pm
Rebekah asked:
my mom won’t let me get a myspace. she says she thinks some guy is gonna come an molest me. does anybody know anybody it’s happened to? how often does it happen? is this resonable… should i just beleive that anytime i get on the computer someone is stalking me or something?
ya, i’m almost 16 – but i thought if i never gave out info i couldn’t get hurt…
my mom won’t let me get a myspace. she says she thinks some guy is gonna come an molest me. does anybody know anybody it’s happened to? how often does it happen? is this resonable… should i just beleive that anytime i get on the computer someone is stalking me or something?
ya, i’m almost 16 – but i thought if i never gave out info i couldn’t get hurt…
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Omg My mom won’t let me either she says I might get ***** or something I feel 4 u Gurl
Don’t be mad about it – I won’t let my kids even get on the internet unless I’m in the same room with them….
listen to your mom untill you you are at least 35
i have a myspace and its not bad. its actually helpful to a lot of ppl. the ONLY way you’ll get molested is if you give out ALL your personal info and talk to some random guy that happens to be a molestor.
I thought they have safe guards for this. Don’t you have to agree to let someone communicate with you.
myspace is cool
a little safe but not that safe
you can have your own page or profile whatever you call it
and put some awsome graphics on it
I have the same problem my mom thinks the same thing and she won’t let me get one.
I know it is hard to deal with but your mom is just trying to protect you. I just got out from under my mom and only now see it. Just try and relaxe and understand that she loves you and doesn’t want to see you hurt. You will be on your own one day and can do anything you want, just let your mom do her job now.
Your mom is correct there are many predators out there. Myspace has way too much information on it and kids are being hurt. I’m not sure how old you are, but your mom is responsible for you and your well being, she’s trying to protect you and you should be thankful you have a person in your life who loves you that much! Good Luck!
My daughter was trying to make a myspace account and I was mad. There is alot of ******** around. If she thinks its a bad idea then maybe you should listen to her.
i applaud your mother for doing her job. do you know condemned death row inmates have acess to my space?
Yes its happened of course its happened, most teenagers are very ignorant about the world. Trust your mother. I know it seems like shes not being fair, BUT shes doing a great job!
Well, in my opinion, the only way he can really molest you is if you meet him in person in private or something. You can try telling your mom this. Also, you can have it blocked so only your friends can see your profile. The only thing others can see is your picture.
Good luck and peace.
i am glad you have a mother that cares about you. my mom is the same way. she doesn’t let me get on there. it rarely happens to people who put a lot of information on there. do not put something like, “i live in Nebraska, USA” (this is not my information). never put ANY personal information at all because just with that information, they can come and hunt you down. i am trying to warn you about that so you can be safe. and i just heard a couple of months ago, a girl got hunted down and killed from a stranger just because she put a whole lot of information on Myspace. and also i heard there was a murderer on Myspace that looks on peoples profiles and looks for information. i swear this is true! that’s why i stay away from that website and you should too.
p.s. there is some people that might be an old grown adult trying to gather information but they are trying to look like they are a kid so they can trick you. i have seen that and heard that many times.
it happend to my friend.
I think myspace is pretty sleezy,she is just trying to protect you.she loves you.
I think it really depends on how old you are. I am a mom, however I am also 28 yrs. old. My daughters are 11 & 12 and I don’t think that they are mature enough to understand how someone can pose as a kid that is your age when they could be my age or older. I was taught never to give out personal information on the computer at all. No ages, birthdates, schools, etc. Basics, very very basic. Even now as I write this, you really have no idea that what I am writing about it true. Am I really a mom with daughters? Am I really 28 yrs. old? Something for you to think about!!
I am a mother and I have seen many news reports or datelines where yes predetors do hang out on my space. It is fine to talk to people you know on line but to try to get to know someone on line is impossible because they can edit any info they want and make themselves to be whoever and whatever they think you may want. Many many have been violated because they trusted someone they “Met” on the net. you are not alone, I do not let my teenage daughter have a my space either and some of her friends whose moms did not stop them have been violated in one way or another because they were not careful. Not everywhere you go are you being stalked but it is a crazy world out there and molesters, stalkers and killers are everywhere so your mom is just trying to protect you the best way she can.
it has happened before, but myspace has protective settings where you can only contact the person if you know there last name, and you dont have to accept someome as a friend if you dont konw them, and if all else fails, just get a myspace without your mom knowing, thats what i did
im 15
Yes it has happened, alot. I don’t remember all the details, but I have seen it on the news. One girl actually ran away from home and took a flight to Jordan to meet her “true love” fromt the computer. This was a smart straight A, never in trouble, girl. So, don’t take it personally. I won’t let my daughter get one either. There are just too many scary creeps out there and no matter how smart you are, they always find a way to trick you. If you want to know the reason I won’t let my daughter on the internet without me knowing exactly what she is doing, rent the movie “Strangland” by Dee Snider. You will completely understand.
Also, there was one girl who only gave the state she lived in and her first name. Harmless, right? Nope. A convicted child molestor was “friends” with her on my space. they got into a conversation about her hard day at field hockey practice at her high school. somehow she mentioned the color of her jersey (he now could find out what school she went to by the school color) and then she mentioned her player number. Guess what? He showed up at her next game and found her, with just that little bit of innocent information.
I could understand where you mother is coming from.To be safe, you shouldn’t give your contact information (address, phone number, etc) and too much personal information (where you go to school, where you work). That is how kids get caught up in the dangerous situations. If people practice common sense, most of this won’t happen.
Everyone I know has one. My siblings, friends, etc. It’s only unsafe if you give out a LOT of personal information, or if you’re just plain stupid. Judging from your post, I think you’re smart enough to not do that.
I don’t think that’s fair at all. Millions of people use myspace. Only the stupid ones get in trouble.
She is only trying to protect you. No parent wants to let their child be in ANY kind of danger. Compromise with her tell her that you and her can set it up together…so she can see what you put on there and she can be put at ease seeing that you don’t put a picture or any real info about yourself such as address or phone number or anything that can lead a predator to you. also let her check your myspace every once in a while to keep her at ease. Yes those stories you hear are real. there are some sick freaks on the computer nowadays and have used myspace as a way to track young girls and boys. Good luck and don’t be mad at your mom for loving you that much
i have a myspace and im 14. tell your mom that you will keep your myspace on private so only your friends can see it and not pedophiles. tell her that you wont add anyone you dont know. and if she still dosnt let you then dont worry about it just get one when you’re older and more mature.
the only way you can get molested by myspace is if you’re careless and give out personal information and talk to people you dont really know.
my friend has a myspace and she gave out tons of personal information. i told her that she was going to get ***** but she wouldnt listen. then she got herself a “myspace boyfriend”. i was disgusted about her internet boyfriend. then she moved on to losing her virginity to her “myspace boyfriend”. till this day i am still shocked that she did that.
but anyways if u do get a myspace just dont give out personal information and keep your profile on private. you can check out mines at
candy-diva
Something that your mom needs to know is that while myspace has gotten a bad rap in the news, its also a place for people to express themselves through on line diaries, music and art. A big hurdle is to gain the level of trust and respect necessary for her to give you that freedom. I don’t know your online behaviour, but if its not anything edgy, go for a while without erasing cookies and history so that your mom can see your online habits if she wants. Being online is really no different than her letting you go out with your friends unsupervised, or borrowing the car. Its about her having the confidence in you to make the right decisions.
As a parent, who was a teen not too long ago, i can remember thinking how unfair my parents were being about certain stuff. Now that i have a son and another on the way, i can absolutely understand what they were doing. It may be hard to accept right now, but your parents love you so much to care about your safety and are only doing what is best for you in their eyes. This is a unsafe world now a days and you don’t even know how dangerous it gets till you are in trouble or are old enough to see how much trouble is out there. They can only guard you for 18 years and then you are on your own in this massive world. It’s their responsibility to teach you to be safe, for yourself and for any future young ones you might bring into this world (far from now i hope). It’s hard not running your own life yet, but trust me, it’s not really as fun as you think it might be. Most of us adults, I’m sure, would love to return to the age of less responsibilities and concerns.
yes. i was watching a show like 3 days ago, its called dateline and they were investigating myspace sex offenders. i had a myspace for about a week then my mom told me to delete it. because in the paper a 13 year old was ***** and killed in Oklahoma. and the show that i was watching was horrible. all the guys that got caught (they had a 14 year old act like the target and they were taping it all) it gave me the chills because since i live in a small town i dont think it could happen to me. that’s the same thing these girls thought. but if it wasn’t for that show they could of been killed. i really want mine back but then again i really dont…
im 17 and i have been using the internet for the past 5 years without much supervision. honestly my parents seem to trust me enough about it but i have gotten into a tight situation (when i was 13) and the guy got put in jail, ive learned and grown since then and i know i did the wrong thing then, but my parents trust that im grown now and can take care of myself. and no i dont think u should believe that anytime u get on a computer that someone is stalking you, lots of stalkers have nothing to do with the internet. i hear about more problems with stalkers that are in ur own neighborhood that have nothing to do with the internet.
the only way you could get stalked is if you put out any personal information
ok i would like to let you know that you really only have to saw a few little things for somone to find out where you are and who you are. a few little bits of info. on 1 or more occasions can narrow anything down. so just keep that in mind. your mom loves you and she just doesnt want to lose you.
I won’t let my 15 year old have one, either. She’s not doing it to be mean. She loves you.
There is such a thing as being over causious. Yes there have been a lot of problems with kids on the internet. In most cases the parents weren’t involved in screening their kids usage. They’ve just let the kid go wherever they want to online with no training. They expect the computer to babysit for them. Leaving your kid untrained on a computer for hours at a time is an invitation to predators 7 there are lots of them.
My daughter has her own myspace page. I helped her set it up and have tought her how to use the internet responsably. Its only available to her friends and I screen it regularly. It may be that your mother dosen’t feel your responsable enough or dosen’t have the time to check your activities. Its also possible that she’s overacting to some of the media hype thats been going on lately. There have been several shows on the subject.
There are predators out there.
They prey on the weak , impresionable , uninformed and unobservant
The internet gives them the ability to look for victims without really revealing their intents or identities
If you don’t watch for them and act accordingly your likely to be one of their victims.
Respect your mothers wishes for now, Their in your best interest.
ur still a little gurl and need to listen to ur mommy.
Nearly every day I read about creeps who prey on young myspace users. I do not let my kids use it and we have a firewall against it.
Your mom is not trying to be a fun-sucker. She simply loves you.
Yes it happens quite a lot. Don’t you see all the stories about girls running off with older men or getting ***** by older guys they invite over to their houses? No I don’t know anyone who has been ***** or killed over it. Yeah it’s real easy for someone who knows how to tap into computer records and trace your Myspace ID back until he gets your home address or at least the state and city you live in.
well you dont have to give out your info. there is this thing called h8ters haters who will give out info on you and you never know someone could cause you harm through another person my space has a violent history with gang bangers it has become a way of trash talk for kids to plan fights at school etc……. there is a site thats called my deathspace.com check it out kids who were on my space as a parent i know my son had a page and he almost died because someone his so called friend told others he was a gang banger and said he was a crip going to a blood school my son was shot twice in the left eye,8xa in his head,multiple times in his back and arm he was shot with a shot gun but through it all GOD heard my prayers my son is still alive now he knows the danger of this computer world allow your mother to plz read this once you create a page you cant delete it girl in the world are nasty and crazy as well so its just something for you to think twice about photos on the computer i think are not good for kids thats how my son attackers was able to identify him gl
My mom wouldn’t let me get on either
yea a bunch a ppl get molested cuz of myspace.i have a myspace but my parents caught me on it so im not allowed on it anymore!but one thing yea ppl might stalk u when ur on the computer its not that safe but idk that much that i cant be on myspace anymore!but just listen 2 ur mom or u might get in deep trouble!
Why tell your parents you want one? Can’t you just get one on your own? Parent’s are only becoming paranoid about this kind of thing because kids are getting stupider. They willingly give out anything anybody asks of them. You all seriously need to learn to lie more, I know that sounds bad but, you can’t just tell people your name on the internet.
i have one but i kind of feel safer knowing no one can find me , maybe you could just ask if you could have one with no pics or personal info and make it private talk to your mom about the different options they have and maybe show her on mine i only have what i like and dont like a little quiz icons and my first name and my heritage no pics and mine is private i do not even consider someone i dont know or bands unless they are the real thing and i know that
OMG!!!!! same wit me gurl… my parents are all freaked out that im going to talk to some random guy and that he is going to magically come to my house and **** me! i feel ur pain gurl…
I’m 13 and I have a Myspace. I think parents like this should really GROW UP, I mean, what are the chances that we are going to get molested, it’s one in a million. If you have it set to private, you are FINE. Who cares about the media!
I say you and every other kid should be allowed to have a myspace.
mine is :
I have a myspace and all the settings are set to private so nobody can email me unless they are my friend or unless I say. I don’t think it is cool to give out info to some random person, unless they go to your school or you are good friends with them and have known them for a long time. I only put friends I can trust on there.
the only way someone can find you is if you give them information about yourself. they cant just look you up and come get you. parents are afraid of myspace because they no nothing about it aside from what they hear on the news, about someone who agreed to meet somebody and went missing and things like that. people who do things like that are stupid…as long as you know that you cant give out to omuch personal information, then you should be allowed to have a myspace. talk with your parents and explain to them how myspace works….you could show them by making one with them for them…give it a try:)
You getting found and molested? uhh 1 in like a 100000 chance.
It only happens when people are stupid enough to talk to people that they dont know personally [like as you know them from school or whatnot.] And you give you adress or whatever.
I’m 16, and my dad has accesss to mine.
honestly, you’re better off without it.
No im 14 and my mom wont let me get a myspace she thinks why do you need to put your picture out online because this happened to my friend and so thats also a reason i cant have a myspace but im very happy with my AIM
-Fredo
just do it behind her back and there is probably a 2%chance of someone molesting u
i mean im 13 and ive had a myspace since i was 10
she’s just concerned for your safety !
You go mom !
just dont give out any personal info
my parents wont let me get one either but if you dont then you probably would be safe
and on the news and stuff they only tell you about the bad stuff and not about how much easier it is to keep in touch with your friends and stuff
Well just make one anyways. But only go on it when shes not there. Because then you have to deal with her catching you. Then after your done just go to your history and delete anything that has myspace in it. Im 13 and it’s what I do!