Do you think parents have a right to tell teenagers who they can & cannot ‘go out’ with?
Due to the excuse ‘i was your age once’
should there be an age limit or restriction til parents can stop control the teenagers life without moving out?
I dont mean wether they should be home at a certain time
cause to be honest im a good kid
I look after my sister most of the time and my brother occasionaly
i cook for myself and my sister i clean the house i also cook for my dad at times
Im quite matture
and im not ‘wingin’
I have a boyfriend who i been with for 4 months and it is a long distance relationship but it works
Im happy and he’s happy my dad doesnt approve due to the fact he prejudged my boyfriend
NOT MY FAULT
yet my dad can go to thailand and marry a woman and bring her into our house and thats acceptable
yet i cant have a boyfriend with a matture sensible attitude
yes..im under his roof
i follow his rules
but also i want my own life to
which i have serpratly
im 16 now
and think i should be able to go out with someone who i dont even see!!
Oh and i dont have a mum
she left when i was a kid
i have my dad
and with him it ends up me looking after him
Im getting a Job
I look after myself
He pays the bills
I help my sister grow up
so she has the life she deserves
He watchs t.v
So to be fair
im the more matture person in the house
and as for the reply saying ‘dins dins ready’
im not cooking am i?
Your saying my dad is doing whats best for me which is fair enought
but most of the time its whats best for him
he will wake me up when he’s thirsty and send me to the shop in the rain the other day on my bike when he had a car outside but he wanted to watch t.v
Also
I care about my education but my dad doesnt
i have just moved house (again) in total around 23 times now and no im not exaggerating and he tells me ‘im stupid & going nowere in life’ when i say im doing well at school he calls me ‘stupid’
but i rise above his pettyness
he wants me to be his little girl forever but the fact is he doesnt even care
he takes no interest in my life
i try to get him involved and do nice things for him but he throws everything back in my face
and treats me more of a slave than a daughter
yet i am thankful i understand he works to give us things. But he never buys me clothes my nana (grandmother) does because he doesnt yet he takes his wife shopping
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18… until then good luck
16 or 15 I would say. Some kids are very mature and should be treated as adults.
in a word YES
it depends. figure it out
Yeah, 18. Until then, get over yourself and listen to your parents. They know best.
As long as you’re living at home…
If they misjudge somebody, I feel bad for you, but since they’re still responsible for all your actions and you’re not an adult yet, I think you’re stuck.
Yes, they pay for everything in your life.
When you’re 18, you’re allowed to do whatever.
18.
but at the same time, parents just want the best for you. and while your under thier roof, u have to obey thier rules
No, if you are living in their house – you go by their rules. Otherwise get a job, pay your own way, and you can do what ever you want.
Parents have a responsibility to help form their offspring’s morals while the offspring are in their care.
I believe kids can achieve the right of independence by becoming independent from their parents, whether that be moving out, or demonstrating moral achievement to the satisfaction of their parents.
They don’t need an excuse…
Its the parents house and the kids live there for free, so if kids want there own rules then they can move out
Considering by some standards they are not considered “adults” and can’t make adult decisions until they are 18 I would have to say NO.
Yes. A teen is still a child. A child can not see things the same as an adult can. If you are a teen I know you are reading this and don’t beleive me…………but you’ll see some day. Trust me. As long as they are living in their parents home and are not legal adults then what the parents say goes……… about anything not just dating.
parents should decide if it should be a group date or allowed to be a single date based on the boy (or girl)
your parent r allowed to make whatever rules they want its there house. mve out if u don’t like it
No, Teenagers cannot control their love.
i dont think parents should do that, you should learn your own mistakes on your own, thats how you learn. if they stop you then you’ll never learn
no ,.. not unless the f/m is doing harm to the other partner .. age should not matter unless illegal and love hshould matter .as long as no violence and hititng is in the relationship i believe u cant judge by anything else ? …
It’s not only a right but a duty to prevent your child from making the same pre-marital mistake you did.
i kno wat u mean! i think that you should make your own choices but if you ***** up… then its on your head!
my parents tried to stop me from dating the man who became my fiancee this morning. we dated in secret for almost a year after my parents forbid it. if both of you are willing to make it work, and you are at a reasonable age right now, 16 or 17, it will work out. good luck!
the age they cannot control you any more is 18, legally in most states.
As a matter of fact, there is an age. It’s 18. I have a difficult time as a social worker with children who have no respect for their parents. I also have a more difficult time for parents who have NO respect for their children. Sad, but sometimes, children are more mature than their parents. It’s up to every individual family to strike a balance in decision making.
Don’t be afraid to at least tell your kid that you don’t like who they are dating…
I’m sure that won’t sit well with them and might make them reconsider.
If not, you have to let them make their own mistakes, and if you think it is seriously going to hurt them in the end, then intervene.
If not, you probably don’t know the kid as well as they do, so you do’nt have the rigth to judge.
Parents should be able to keep controlling their kids until they move out. That’s what I’m gonna do. It’s not until you’re 18, it’s until you leave my house. Your not gonna live in MY house and tell ME what time your coming home. That goes for anybody. My house, my rules. Agreed?
uhh yeah. they know whats going on in that pea brain of yours. they really are just trying tokeep you out of the bad crowds in turn keep your happy *** out of jail. one day you will realize this and thank them. until then you may think you are right but keep inmind everything they say. usually is right.
Ahhh Jeeez. a whining teenager. what a surprise. Look, being a kid is good. It doesn’t last near long enough and when it’s gone it’s gone for good. Once you grow up you’ll have many many many years to date whomever you please. Just enjoy being a kid. If that means you can’t date someone your parents don’t like well suck it up. It gets harder later.
As parents always said, while you’re under their roof, and still a minor, you do as they say. Plain and simple!
Parents should tell you what to do yea…….. well advise.
Oh yea… Dinners ready, so you better come down before it gets cold….
Ahhh the old parent vs. teenager gridiron battle.
Here’s the deal young one:
When you get your own place, pay your own bills, feed yourself, clothe yourself, and are an independent mature adult, then you can go whatever you want.
But when you live under Mom and Dad’s roof, and they pay for everything and take care of you, then you live by their rules.
Sorry young one, but that’s how it works. If you don’t like it you can always move out.
Of course! As long as children are minors, parents need to do what they can to protect the kids from their own poor judgement.
I didnt date until i was 16. My mom wouldnt let me go out with anyone except for friends. But i also liked it to go out when i was 16 too.
But i think parents are only doing what they should to protect their brood of teens still today. & if and when a teen decides to move out they have to go somewhere to sign a peice of paper showing that that parent is in no control of them anymore under their roof.
Plus it is the parents roof, their rules, they pay the bills, the put food in the teens bellies, and is always a safehaven for if any of their teens want to return they can.
Parents have the right to tell you who you can or cannot date (or anything else for that matter) until you are 18. Anyone with half a brain knows that. Under 18, your parents set the rules. Over 18, you’re on your own kid.
Yes they have the right… We were your age once and our parents were the same way. The ones of us that didn’t listen learned the hard way. We, parents, aren’t tring to control you. We have been there. Why looks shiney and pretty to you maybe thorns to us. We see it first because of experince.
Trust your parents. When you can afford to pay your bills and have your own house, then set your own rules. As long as you are in your parents home, they pay the bills, feed you and cloth you. They also love you.
Well until you’re 18, your parents have a right to tell you these things. It’s for your own protection & good….They wouldn’t tell you not to see someone if they trusted that person.
No I dont think anyone should pick thier kids friends and boyfriends or girlfriends.
I think they should start being treated like adults around the age of 15/16 provided they act like responsible adults.
The reason why I say this is because thats when the most crucial time starts for a kid to start becoming an adult and while they still need mom and dads guidance, they also have to start learning how to really grow up.
Do they have the right, absolutely!!! Should they, probably not. It just makes the “banned” person more attractive in my experience. Teenagers need to learn and understand-they are still a child and by the laws of this country they have absolutely no rights!!
My husband is 34, and an accomplished professional. His parents still try to play him by his puppet strings.
My mother rarely interfered with my choices, even when they were less than stellar.
The consequence is that while we both love our parents dearly, I consider myself very close to my mother … and my husband’s relationship with his parents remains fraught with tension.
And yet, there’s no way to tell them that their parenting choices were poor. There wasn’t when my husband was a rebellious 16 y.o. – and there isn’t now, when spending time with them makes me FEEL like a rebellious 16 y.o.
Parenting choices are highly personal, and even if they’re wrong, each parent is still free to make them.
The best you can do is make different choices should you ever be a parent.
I know that’s cold comfort now, but there’s little you can change.
i think not i hated it when my family told me who to date and now i didn’t even get to marry the guy i truly loved because of my parents and everyday i blame my unhappiness to them cause now he is married
I honestly do not believe that parents should tell their kids who to date. Thats one lesson they are going to have to learn on their own. The only thing they can do is tell them what they think of their bf/gf and let them make the decision whether or not they choose to date that person. Unless the parent knew for a fact that this person was a danger towards their son/daughter, I really believe they should let their kid make their own decisions…relationship wise.
yes parents have the right. it is a basic necessity in protecting your teenager from bad influences.you learn from your experiences as a teen so that you can apply this to your child’s life. restriction,once their over twenty.but a parent still cares.
I suppose you can say you have the right, and many others will agree with you. However, as a young adult with these memories fresh in my mind, I encourage you to be more open minded. When parents set super strict rules for their children, such as who to date or be friends with, it infuriates the children to no end. The children lose respect for their parents because they view these restrictions as the parents not respecting their own feelings. Instead of listening to the parent and abiding by the rules, the child is more likely to sneak around and do whatever they feel like out of spite. It is just my opinion, but try to be open minded, or at least let your child know your reasons for saying no. And no, “because I said so” is NOT a reason! Good luck!
parents own us forever.because of the pain when your mother gave birth to you and your father’s hardwork to give you shelter,food and education.
I think parents have all the rights to do that until the child moves out then they can only voice their opinion… they only do it to protect their children
Yes. Sometimes I know something about a boy that my child doesn’t think I do. For instance, young man told one daughter that other daughter was voted most likely to S.C.O.R.E. First daughter was afraid to dash her sister’s dating dream, so told me. When this young man asked my daughter out, she was told that she could not see this fellow without adult supervision. Thankfully, sometimes being a strict parent makes amourous young men loose interest.
If they do not pay rent, until they move! Do to the fact that a if the other person will bring there drama to the parent house in the form of direct drama or indirect drama. Direct drama any thing that cost trouble to the parent, indirect drama, trouble to you 18 year old or about. at 18, if hi or she is still leaving home, hi or she have no rights!
Probably when you’re living on your own and can support yourself.Until then you have to eal with them.Believe me I went through it too.
There is a “magic” age. It’s 18. After that, if you want to continue living at home, pay room and board. After 18, your parents have no control over who you do or do not date, or “go out with”. They do, however, still have control over who does or does not come into their home, so, even if you pay room and board, relationships they disapprove of may have to be conducted away from your home base. Until you are 18, it’s their house, their rules. And, no, you don’t have any rights, except the right to be fed and treated humanely. Sort of like a pet.
If you live with your parents you should respect them and follow their rules. If you don’t want to then you had better get a job and move out.
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Eph 6:1 says,
Children, be obedient to your parents in union with the Lord, for this is righteous: “Honor your father and your mother”; which is the first command with a promise: “That it may go well with you and you may endure a long time on the earth.”