Parents of teenagers: what do you think of this?
Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009 at
4:35 pm
jenn. asked:
Hey. To all the parents of teenagers, I would like to ask you what you would have done in this situation. I am a thirteen year old girl in eighth grade, and I do consider myself exceedingly mature for my age. My friend Chrissy invited me to go to our other friend Matt’s house. There was going to be adult supervision, and about 6 of my other friends were going to attend. We were going to go at about 6 o’clock at night, and probably stay until about 9:30 or 10 o’clock at night. When I asked my parents if I could go, they absolutely went into hysterics. They said it was “absolutely inappropriate”. They said “What the hell is wrong with these kids’ parents that they would let them do this?” They said they didn’t want me going to a boy’s house. They seem to think I will have sex, do drugs, drink, etc. even though I have proved to them time and time again that I am a very responsible person. My friends don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. I am asking, what would you have done in this sutation?
Hey. To all the parents of teenagers, I would like to ask you what you would have done in this situation. I am a thirteen year old girl in eighth grade, and I do consider myself exceedingly mature for my age. My friend Chrissy invited me to go to our other friend Matt’s house. There was going to be adult supervision, and about 6 of my other friends were going to attend. We were going to go at about 6 o’clock at night, and probably stay until about 9:30 or 10 o’clock at night. When I asked my parents if I could go, they absolutely went into hysterics. They said it was “absolutely inappropriate”. They said “What the hell is wrong with these kids’ parents that they would let them do this?” They said they didn’t want me going to a boy’s house. They seem to think I will have sex, do drugs, drink, etc. even though I have proved to them time and time again that I am a very responsible person. My friends don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. I am asking, what would you have done in this sutation?
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explain to them that you and matt are only friends and that there willbe other people there so nothing will happen. also tell them that adults will be present. have them call matts house and let them talk to his parents about the supervision. if matt has ever been at your house ask how him coming over is any different than you going over there. hope this helps and good luck!
hey girl, im 13 also.
I have been in this situation many, many times!
haha. You want to know what i did?
the first time i tried sneaking out…
dont do it. It doesnt work.
but if you go and talk to your parents,
be like, well i really want to go and there is gunna be adult supervision and sujust that they can talk to the boys mom or dad or whoevers gonna be there if they want more infomation. If you talk to them calmly about it it is more of a chance they will let you.
but dont sneak out. You get into wayyyyyy more trouble if you get caught. trust me.
your parents are insane
Sorry, I am not the parent of a teenager, but a teenager myself, a 13 year old at that.
Wow, this is quite strange because I feel the exact same way as you, and this EXACT situation has happened to me before, i just wanted to post on your comment to relate to what your going through.
One night me and my friend cecilee wanted to go to our friends house who was a guy and cecilee’s parens offered to drive. There was going to be about 4 other people the aside from me and cecilee.
We really wanted to go, but my parents freaked out and said it was too late notice and that they didn’t want me going to a boy’s house at this age.
I think my parents should have realised that we wouldnt have done anything bad, except drink, maybe.. but that isn’t even bad and they don’t care if i do or not so why should they care if i go to a boys house? the guy whos house i was going to is *** anyway, well its not like i’d tell my parents that but still i wouldnt do something with a *** guy, even tho we have madeout.. but thats a different story, i really just hate when parents are strict.
Your parents should hear you out on this one. Talk to them about how you should have been allowed to go.
Next time, just be like: “I’m going to a girl’s house” and get a ride with a friend or get dropped off at a girl’s house nearby.
If your parents do not trust you to go to friends house then why not ask if you can invite your friends to your own home so your parents can see for themselves how responsible you and your friends are.
AS A PARENT I WOULD NOT LET U GO TIL I HAVE MEET ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS AND ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS PARENTS ALSO…..
ALSO I WOULD HAVE U BRING ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS OVER TO THE HOUSE LIKE A PARTY WHERE I CAN SEE YOU…..
AND BELIEVE ME IT IS JUST BECAUSE U ARE THE GIRL…. IF U WERE THE BOY AS A PARENT I WOULD NOT BE SO WORRIED………
THE THING IS YES U R MATURE BUT TIL U ARE FRAGILE……I MEAN THAT LETS SAY OVER AT THIS HOUSE U KNOW YOUR FRIENDS BUT LETS SAY HE HAS AN UNCLE THAT CAME IN TOWN FOR A VISIT…..BLA BLA BLA NEXT THING U KNOW HE CAN BE A ****** OR A KILLER OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT…. AND SOMETHING BAD HAPPEN THENNNN THAT WHEN IT ALL GOES DOWN…….
SO AS A PARENT I HAVE BEEN GIVING MY SONS CONDOMS SINCE AN EARLY AGE THEY ARE BOYS AND ALL THEY WANT IT IS TO HAVE SEX IS CRAZY….
SO IF I WAS YOUR MOM AND U WANNA PARTY WITH YOUR FRIENDS I WOULD HAVE LIKE A PARTY EVERY LETS SAY…. EVERY MONTH U INVITE ALL YOUR FRIEND AND I WOULD GET TO KNOW THEM AND ONCE I KNOW THEM AND I SEE IF I CAN TRUST THEM I WOULD LET U GO TO THEIR HOUSE WITH THEIR PARENTS AT HOME OF COURSE…….
Ok, first off, at thirteen everyone thinks they’re mature for their age. I’ve known teenage drug adicts that have thought themself “mature for their age”. Also, I’ve known drug addicts that think they’re very responsible too, so just because you think that does not mean anything.
Second, don’t think these comments are coming from some 60 year old that has never had children. I might not have ever had kids, but that’s becasue I’m a teenager, 15 to be exact.
Third, parents are there for a reason. Some parents just happen to be more strict than others. If I was to be with a guy (even with his family) in his house or even somewhere else when I was 13 my mom would have freaked out. I would have never heard the end.
Trust me, parents might not always seem like they know what they’re talking about but they do. They were thirteen also, in a time almost more relaxed than the one we’re in now. Things have gotten harder for teenagers when it comes to drugs, sex, smoking, drinking, ect, and that’s one of the ways they’re trying to protect you, by trying to keep you from some place that might be harmful. It doesn’t mean it will be, but that is not the point.
Some times you just have to shut your mouth and walk off without saying anything. If it’s really that important to you CALMLY talk to them. If they go off again, or say no in any way shape or form don’t push it. It just makes them mad.
I know I probably sound brainwashed. I’m not. It’s all simply respect and love. You’re parents have at least 20 years on you. Respect that.
Edit: chanys22, I’ve heard the quote “boys will be boys” but I’ve never heard someone have the audacity to allude to it, same with the quote “girls are delicate flowers”. Boys and girls are whoever they learn to be.
Tell them that you dont know why they would think that you would do those things. Tell them that if you never get a chance, they will never see how responsible you really are by turning them down. Give them the parents phone numbers that will be supervising, and ask them to give them a call.
do you really know whats on Matts mind? you dont know boys.
they trust you but they dont trust tht boy.
I would ask the parent supervising to call your parents or the other way around. I am a teen, and I agree why parents worry these days. Even though you are you are a mature young lady still leaves doubts for the influence other teens can bring to your life and your parents just don’t want that.
its tough, but you learn to get around it
talked to the kids parents first if i didnt like the answers
no go
maybe your parents know something about this boy you dont