Parents of teenagers: what do you think of this?
Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009 at
5:14 am
jenn. asked:
Hey. To all the parents of teenagers, I would like to ask you what you would have done in this situation. I am a thirteen year old girl in eighth grade, and I do consider myself exceedingly mature for my age. My friend Chrissy invited me to go to our other friend Matt’s house. There was going to be adult supervision, and about 6 of my other friends were going to attend. We were going to go at about 6 o’clock at night, and probably stay until about 9:30 or 10 o’clock at night. When I asked my parents if I could go, they absolutely went into hysterics. They said it was “absolutely inappropriate”. They said “What the hell is wrong with these kids’ parents that they would let them do this?” They said they didn’t want me going to a boy’s house. They seem to think I will have sex, do drugs, drink, etc. even though I have proved to them time and time again that I am a very responsible person. My friends don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. I am asking, what would you have done in this sutation?
Hey. To all the parents of teenagers, I would like to ask you what you would have done in this situation. I am a thirteen year old girl in eighth grade, and I do consider myself exceedingly mature for my age. My friend Chrissy invited me to go to our other friend Matt’s house. There was going to be adult supervision, and about 6 of my other friends were going to attend. We were going to go at about 6 o’clock at night, and probably stay until about 9:30 or 10 o’clock at night. When I asked my parents if I could go, they absolutely went into hysterics. They said it was “absolutely inappropriate”. They said “What the hell is wrong with these kids’ parents that they would let them do this?” They said they didn’t want me going to a boy’s house. They seem to think I will have sex, do drugs, drink, etc. even though I have proved to them time and time again that I am a very responsible person. My friends don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. I am asking, what would you have done in this sutation?
Tagged with: Adult Supervision • O Clock • Responsible Person
Filed under: Parenting Teenagers
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I don’t think that they should have gotten into hysterics but my guess is that if you were going to a girl’s house your parents wouldn’t mind. Maybe they just think that you’re growing up too fast and they’re not ready for it. Tell them gently that you’re mature enough to know the difference between right and wrong. Don’t be too mad at your parents, they might just not be ready to see their daughter grow up.
I woulf have let you go. You should talk to your parents about it. If you give them enough evidence about how responsable you are they might let you go. Go for it!
Talk to your parents, and let them know your mature enough to handle it. If not, oh well.
i would let u go as long as i knew their parents and talked to them 1st tell your parents 2 talk to their parents
maybe you should have let your parents talk to the adult supervision. if your an only child, i can see why they were a little up tight. but you’ll be fine.
Why doesn’t the boys parents invite some of the other parents to be there too? I would let my child attend if I was welcome to attend as well…maybe after a few times I would decide it was fine–or not?
Well I am the mom of twin 13 yr old boys and as long as I knew there would be parent supervision and I had spoken to the parents then I would have allowed my boys to go. I trust them and they are responsible and have never given me any reason not to trust them. They are honor roll students and educated on sex and drugs and I have to at some point trust that I have done well in teaching them and trust them with it.
Maybe you could write your parents a letter telling them how you feel. You seem to be very mature and articulate for your age and I think sometimes it’s easier to get out what you want to say when you write it down and then let them read it. This will give them time to think about what you are trying to say. In your letter make sure to tell them that they have done a good job of raising you with good values and morals and that you are responsible and smart and that all you are asking is that they give you a chance to prove that to them. They need to trust that they have done good by you and you are mature because of it.
good luck, you sound like a great kid!
I have two daughters – one now 23 and the other just turned 18. I would have let you go. As long as there is adult supervision, I have no problem – of course I call the adults in question and confirm that they are aware of and ok with what the plans are at their home.
your parents are just acting like that bc they just want the best for u they dont want u to turn into a bad influence sure they may be over protective but they are doing it for ur own good they are not doing it to torture u they are doing it bc they love you and theres nothing wrong with that so if i were u i would just sit back and relax and spend some time with my family
I would have called to talk to the parents that were to be in charge to make sure that they were really going to be home all night and checking on the kids. I know of a set of parents that went into the family room and never check on the kids. The other thing is that I would have arranged a pick up time for you (with me being the driver) to make sure that you were on home on time and with no problems.
Sorry, I wouldn’t have allowed you either.
Stick with your girlfriends.
Sorry, but I agree with your parents. No unsupervised dating until 18. When your 30, you will understand.