parents of young teenagers, I have a question for you?
Thursday, September 9th, 2010 at
4:13 am
braslinbabe85 asked:
my husband and I recently went to the theater for a mantinae movie… when we left there was a group of youngsters (I’d say 11-13) waiting for their parents. there were 2 girls in the group and both were dressed that if I saw them alone, I would assume they are ***********. their body language towards the boys in the group insinuated very strong sexuality. but they are too young to even have the natural instincts for this, so I’m assuming it was taught. is this bad parenting, no parenting, or what? I have such pitty for these girls becuase I believe they are headed to problems later on with self respect and success in general… please share your thoughts?
my husband and I recently went to the theater for a mantinae movie… when we left there was a group of youngsters (I’d say 11-13) waiting for their parents. there were 2 girls in the group and both were dressed that if I saw them alone, I would assume they are ***********. their body language towards the boys in the group insinuated very strong sexuality. but they are too young to even have the natural instincts for this, so I’m assuming it was taught. is this bad parenting, no parenting, or what? I have such pitty for these girls becuase I believe they are headed to problems later on with self respect and success in general… please share your thoughts?
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As a parent of a teenager, I can totally understand what you are saying.
I think it is a combination of lack of parenting and lack of respect by the parents for the children. We can’t blame the teens for all their actions because the parents are the ones who, in theory, are supposed to be in control. The “sexy” outfits (if you can refer to them that way) are being purchased by the parents…what parent would allow their child to leave the house dressed like that? Don’t be too quick to assume the kids don’t have the natural instincts for sex, even as a young teenager – the movies, tv shows, books, music, etc are making it way to easy for teens to get ideas – Kids will always be kids – they will be curious and they will act on that curiosity –
I too take pity on the teens (boys and girls) – they are not being respected by their own parents – they likely will have problems as adults …. it’s kind of like a vicious circle – each generation lacks respect for the prior generation and the next generation.
I can say that if I see a child I know that I think may be dressed inappropriately, or acting inappropriately, I will usually address them, and/or their parents, with my concerns. Sometimes it helps,
Too young to have the natural instincts for this???
Girls are married at that age in some countries. As for why it occurs…I bet if you think about the movie you went to see, the T.V. ads you saw over the last week, and the billboards you see on the way to work every day, you will understand the unrelenting sexual overtones of every aspect of media that bombards our youth. Add this and the fact that most parents these days are absentee or trying to be a friend rather than a parent to their children, and you will begin to answer this question.
ditto about the self respect et al… but where’ve you been… this is going on for years. I dont know the names but they are Britney, Lindsay Lohan wannabees. The market for these celebs is PRE-TEEN and they personify this ********** look. The ******* out, the jeans down to their ***** and the ATTITUDE.
I feel that for many of these girls it is simply marketing 101 coloring their vision and they will be ok. However I have known teens who lived their entire existence in that world, got all their opinions and ideas from this hooker planet on the web and the media blogs. Obviously those with creativity and self esteem will be victimized more by this trend.
its like drugs… a healthy kid tries them and moves on. the needy one likes the escape, being something/someone/somewhere else and addiction follows. it all starts at home. unfortunately today 61% of ALL KIDS are living in SINGLE PARENT HOMES so save the world!
So you read their minds? or did they tell you they were worried that they might be taken for ***********? If they didn’t tell you this themselves, then your perceptions were all you, not them, at all. Even though it was not so for me, some people become sexual very early, and most of us, including me, become parents. The main vehicle for this in nature is ***.
People should not assume that young teenage girls have any clue whatsoever about whatever sexual fears or fantasies taking place in People’s minds. They are not responsible for it and should NOT be punished for what goes on between your ears. Not enough notice is taken of the violence perpetrated by jealousy of these most lately blooming flowers.
Every woman has problems later on with self respect and success in general. Probably every person. What were you doing at 13?