Teenagers Having sex
Monday, December 21st, 2009 at
4:13 pm
WhateverWhenever asked:
How come some parents & fellow teenagers freak out when they hear 15-year-olds having sex? As a teenager or during adolescence, you develop sexual feelings, desires, and sexual physical characteristics. Being a teenager is all about sexual development, I don’t see what’s so wrong with teens having sex or why people act so surprised? I don’t see why teens (girls especially) are shunned or looked down upon for having sex early?
How come some parents & fellow teenagers freak out when they hear 15-year-olds having sex? As a teenager or during adolescence, you develop sexual feelings, desires, and sexual physical characteristics. Being a teenager is all about sexual development, I don’t see what’s so wrong with teens having sex or why people act so surprised? I don’t see why teens (girls especially) are shunned or looked down upon for having sex early?
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Because it’s illegal.
i don’t know either
i agree with what your saying.
People are just concerned of unwanted pregnancy and STI’s
personally i think in 10 years time people be having sex from like 11.
It’s illegal aswell !
because if they get pregnant their life is a lot more difficult than it has to be
b/c they r protective
I agree, I think it’s stupid when a girl asks a question about sex and everyone freaks out. I guess she could not ask any questions and make a really bad choice instead of learning a little bit more.
Yeah and this probably coming from a “teenager”. Well while I am sure you have heard it all before, but, you are a “teenager”, and, being a teenager, YOU DON’T KNOW EVERYTHING – WHATEVER.
God Bless.
That’s despicable. Listen to yourself. Why are they so ’shocked’? Because being fifteen years old is still a child, that’s why.
the problem is teenagers are reckless and would end up pregnant or with an aids related sickness so it is not wrong for them as long as they do it responsibly like using a condom as a parent knowing that your kids are having sex instead of taking their school grades up is disturbing
Well, every parent has a hard time dealing with the fact that their (until now) little baby is turning into a sexual being. But that’s only part of it…
I’m 22, and I can understand where you’re coming from at 15 – because I remember thinking the same things. As hard as it is to believe though, at your age your brain has not matured and does not think the same way that an adult does, and therefore isn’t always capable of making the best decisions. Trust me, things that seem completely rational to you now won’t five years from now. So it’s not really that you are having sex that freaks them out – it’s more that they worry about the life-altering consequences of unprotected sex – such as you getting HIV or another STD, getting pregnant or getting a girl pregnant (depending upon your gender), etc. etc.
I do aggree with you to some extend, its no suprise to me that girls of 15 years old are having sex, its completeley natural. and basically the female body is ready for sex and pregnancy as soon as you start your periods. Il get marked thumbs down for saying that, but i was pregnant at 15 and my mum took me to the doctor and she was asking himm all these questions about wether or not my body could handle it and he said obviously when a teenagers body starts having periods thats its way of saying its ready to be fertilised. Its the law of nature. And in the olden days you were expected to marry and have kids in your teens. and the body was obviously capeable of that. I do know that some teenagers may struggle to cope emotionally, but i never did and i didnt get why people said that? Emotionally sex wasnt a problem at all.
But in todays society parents want their children to become something in life before having children and i guess its more of dissapointment rather than shock when they think of their little girls having sex.
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i dunno is breaking the law ever good? not that all laws are good but there was probably some good intent when they were put there.
I think early sex degrades on the character of our nation. Other cultures look at ours with much disregard.
Older ppl are more likely to wear condoms and prevent aids from spreading. Girls are more sussceptible to STDs. The internal variety of organs gives a place for things (bacteria or viral agents) to fester and become more threatning. This has over generations caused it to become taboo for women to have more then one partner. A man having sex is more likely to get off scott free. Whenever ppl get off scott free it’s usually a good thing. however this has seemingly made it ok that men should play the field, sow wild oats, and do whatever it takes to get the lay. but playing the field isn’t good for men or women. If you’re not paying attention AIDs is a REAL problem in the world right now. Wild oats? ppl have to raise those kids. And emotional trauma from careless relationships can ruin lives if not lead to *******.
parents worry about the possible negative consequences of having sex when you are young. there are emotional, social and physical disadvantages to having sex, particularly with the wrong people, and it’s very difficult for parents to accept that you have grown up enough to behave responsibly.
most of the people my own age i knew who were having sex when we were all fifteen or so were in long-term relationships, which i was quite accepting of – the ones i disapproved of were those who were using their sexuality to either gain power over others or to have something to talk about in an effort to get attention from their friends. i knew a lot of (mostly) girls who engaged in risky behaviour simply to attract attention or try to force their friends or parents to take a more active role in looking after them. rather than taking a mature and responsible adult attitude to sex, they were doing quite the reverse, and using sex as a way to get people to carry on treating them like children and looking after them, instead of taking care of themselves.
Because they are worried about things like STD’s and pregnancy.
i thought that was obvious. they musnt teach Sex Ed very well anymore…
I’ll be speaking on the side against premarital sex. There’s so many things that can go wrong with having sex early. For one, sexually transmitted diseases are becoming more and more common as more people are becoming involved with multiple partners over a period of time. Unwanted pregnancies are a pretty big problem too. Would you, as a 15 year old, want to find out your life is turned upside down because you now have to raise a child? Teens don’t need to be burdened with that kind of responsibility at that age. Sure, being a teen is about developing, going through hormone rushes and growth, but it’s also about maturing. We aren’t adults yet. We don’t need to worry about marriage, having kids of our own, and all the unexpected problems that come along with them for a while yet. I believe sex is a precious act, to be saved for marriage. I think it’s a pretty big deal to be able to say to your future husband or wife that you waited your entire life just for them… I hope more teens will realize that its just better to wait….
If they aren’t old enough to care for a child on their own then their not old enough to have sex. If they aren’t old enough to drive by themselves they aren’t old enough to have sex. If their not old enough to move out of their parents house, then they are not old enough to have sex. If they aren’t old enough to take care of themselves, financially then they aren’t old enough to have sex!!!!!
I understand that teenagers experience those things at that age, but if they can’t do all of the above then they don’t need to have sex. They don’t think things out before they do it. That’s why we have a lot of teen and young mothers. I mean they have babies and their parents have to take care of that baby until they are old enough to hold a steady, good paying job so they can move out or at least take care of the baby. How is that fair for a parent that has already raised their kids for the most part have to take care of another one that is technically not theirs. Most parents don’t have a problem but their are those that do.
I had my baby at 21 years old and I was unprepared. Just lost my job, didn’t go to college, technically had no money. My parents still had to help me get on my feet, so if a 21 year old can be in that situation what the heck situation do you think a 13,14 or 15 year old would be in.
It’s natural, and it’s most definitely desirable, but it’s looked down upon for our sake. Babies aren’t exactly a blessing to a high school student.
you need to click it down! lock and key that ish up! who wants an STD? NOT MEEEE!!!
Problems: STD’s >illegal >teen pregnancy is just plain sad.
Nothing more to say.
ignore all these stupid adults thinking there the all knowing.
yeah they no more than us teens but being a teen differs on the time period so as to being us now they know nuffin’ lol
i think from at the very least 14 upwards, if your using protection and keepin it quiet whats the problem??
Harry right above me just proved every “stupid adults” point.
Teenagers may think that they have the maturity to have sex, but in reality they don’t. Will teenagers have the maturity to accept a pregnancy? Some of them do (those are the true mature ones), but most of them don’t, as you see especially on here at Y!A.
Sure you have sexual desires, but that’s part of growing up, and teenagers aren’t fully grown up yet to understand all sides of having sex. It’s just not about the STDs and the pregnancies, it is about the emotional and physical changes too. Sex changes everything, it changes a relationship and it changes a person. Adults and parents just want their children to grow up a little bit more before dealing with such an “adult” issue.
But I guess I don’t know what I’m talking about…apparantely I am a “stupid adult” here…
being a teenager is not “all about” having sex. that is a selfish perspective (although that is very teenager-like). i suppose youre right, it’s somewhat normal for a 15 year old to be having sex but it should be kept quiet. yet it is in your face, on the bus and everywhere in between. and not to mention teens nowadays think it’s “cute” to have a baby. idiots.
Because sex is a serious thing….Many things can happen when you start to have sex. Yes teenagaers are having thoses feelings, but just because you have them doesn’t mean that you have to use them.
i agree with you and my parents even freak out when the person is like 17 or 18. I am like wow, they have a job and are almost an adult, chill! Anyway i agree and the people should lighten up. I think at 16 and up you should be able to have sex, which it is legal then, but i think parents should be ok with it at 16.
I don’t get it either. I think it’s completely appropriate as long as they truly care about each other and try their best to prevent pregnancy and STDs. I’m tired of adults (especially religious ones) preaching out about abstinence. It’s an option, but not the only one. I think girls shouldn’t be looked down upon because they had sex early. So they are exploring there world, god forbid!
I kno right they(adults) expect us to be like them when they were this age but i bet loots ofthem were having sex too! It just wasnt as Out There as we put it. And to the first commenter of this question… idiot its not illegal the legal sex age for the usa is 14 dumbass. if teen want t o have sex no one should be tell them or giving them shyt about it. Its my body ok. and if i make a mistake well pendejo thats what life is about making misstakes and learning from them. Yes some mistakes change your entire life but still Its my life and since when did america beciome caring and worried about what teens do in the first place. If we all died tomorrow no one would give a **** every1 would just go on with thier lives like they always do so ppl shut the **** up Get over yourselves and get some business cuz we AINT IT!
I’m sorry, but I have to disagree with you. Being a teenager is NOT all about sexual development, it is about gaining knowledge and maturity. Some people have perfectly sound reasons for having sex at a young age, but the truth is, most people don’t. Most teenagers have sex either because “everyone else is,” or they want to prove that they’re mature enough, or something else along those lines. Those are not good reasons for having sex at an early age, and because they are the reason so many people have sex, those who have it for good reasons are largely overlooked in the process of stereotyping.
However, you are right about one thing: there is no need to be surprised or jump to conclusions when you hear that a teenager is having sex. People need to learn to listen and then judge. We have to remember to judge people not from where we stand, but where they stand, especially in cases like these.
some adults think that u should have sex after marriage…
everyone knows that its gonna b more difficult to take care of a child as a teenager cuz us teenagers have to much to do to take care of a baby we have to finish school and thats y some ppl drop out early…
but its not illegal, no one goes to jail for it
I don’t freak when I hear this, Its just life.
Because the ramifications are serious, and the teens who don’t have sex responsibly will end up in a very bad situation.
Because of religious idealogy (It’s all BS)
Or because teen preggos f’d up their life and won’t be very successful