Why do adults get mad at teenagers?
Saturday, January 16th, 2010 at
2:18 pm
Veronica L asked:
Sometimes it makes me upset how parents expect us to understand what they are going through but most of them have lost touch with being a teenager. I have never been an adult before so how can they expect me to understand how difficult it is to have a job and raise children? It is annoying how adults sometimes downplay teenage problems or tell us to be concerned with things other than boys, music, friends, and school. What do you expect for me to care about?
14 and married? Props to you. You must be very mature.
Sometimes it makes me upset how parents expect us to understand what they are going through but most of them have lost touch with being a teenager. I have never been an adult before so how can they expect me to understand how difficult it is to have a job and raise children? It is annoying how adults sometimes downplay teenage problems or tell us to be concerned with things other than boys, music, friends, and school. What do you expect for me to care about?
14 and married? Props to you. You must be very mature.
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Adults get mad cause their life is so stressful. If they didn’t have any stress, they wouldn’t be mad at you.
Because when you grow up you wonder why you waisted so much time worrying about tiny things. They are stressed as well, you know. They work and have to support a family and have a lot on their plate as well. I know teenage years seem really bad but things will get better.
i get what ur saying its like
no ur to younge to date
no cant do this
cant do that
bla bla bla bla bla
but do what i do
at school have relsionships
listen to music on the computer
hang out with friends at school
also with friends/boys say can i go to a friends house or can my friend come here now it could be a boy or it could be a girl u never said what sex they were
also as for music too *** music rocks and has no age limet
and school well u can worry about that
hope i helped
(13 year old me!!!)
Sometimes parents need you to help out – have you asked them if there’s something that you can do to help? A family should work together; no one gets a break and everyone should chip in to get the work done at home. Your parents work all day and you are working/studying at school, so if you all help each other by taking a needed household task, it just makes everything go that much smoother.
And try shutting off the cell phone, quit texting or IMing and talk to your parents. I have trouble talking to my teen because she’s always connected to her toys; then again, here I am on the computer.
We all need to be a little less self-centered and focus more on each other.
I agree with you, what may seem trivial to an adult can really be something of great concern to you. I think as adults we forget how scary our teenage years were and down lay their significance. Its a time of great angst and a time where your transition into adulthood is painfull, frought with fear and insecurity. You can’t for a minute understand how an adult is feeling but maybe acknowledge to your mom or dad that yes what they are going through is also scary and remember they are facing these challenges for the first time too.
I think the common ground is not in your ages but in understanding that each day is new, and it brings with it challenges neither of you have dealt with before. Be brave, be strong and talk!
Your issues are important, more for you than for anyone else. Downplaying your problems will make you feel like you don’t matter, understand that it has the same effect on the other side of 18 too. Does this make sense?
I hope so, I know this is a tough time, its hell for a reason! It will form the person you were born to be, you can do this!!
I never expected my kids to understand things like finances, raising them or anything else.
I think teenage problems are just as important as everyone else’s problems…
Welcome to the untold explaination for why modern America is such a mess: They say you will understand when you are older, and therefore as parents they have no reason to teach you anything. Lazy parenting consists of bitching and griping about how smart they are vs how dumb you are.
Shows where their head if they say school is not a serious concern. Ditto for your relationships.
I don’t think it’s really that they are mad or over expectant of teens, is just that they get frustrated with us. Thinking back, you yourself probably gets annoyed with little kids, when they don’t entirely understand what you are going through or what you have to deal with. Thinking back, when you were little, you didn’t understand why your parents or older siblings would get upset with you. It’s just frustration. It’s the same for adults. They are frustrated with why teens can’t be more mature, not saying we aren’t mature, but just more mature and understanding about the stress of adulthood. They know you don’t understand, but they just want you to be open minded and patient.
So no they aren’t mad, just frustrated.
yea i agree aye. And sometimes their so caught up in their own problems that they don’t listen to ours. Good luck to you! xx
adults is just mad that their old they wish they were u
i am only 25 but i now know why my mother would get mad at me cause all the stuff i worried about was so petty and her problems were far worse than mine i had no idea what it was like to have bills and money troubles i believe they are trying to teach you about the real world and honestly it doesn’t matter if you were the prettiest in school it doesn’t help you in the real world at all so just be patient and hear them out after all its for your own good and parents are not jealous of their children its just children do stupid things
u need to think about you being a little more considerate,as some parents do change.My parents and mine realtionship was non existent until i fallen pregnant at the age of 14,had my beautiful son on the 24th december 2008.
My mom was very angry,of course,and left on a holiday for a month.NO1 had a clue where she went and my dad had to track her down by her credit card and bring her home,she was terrified bcoz she was never a mom to me,i was raised by a nanny along with my older 2 siblings.
Anyway,parents do change,my mom and I are getting on better each day,she involves me in her life and cares,as well as helps me out.
Also adding to the above,i matured a lot.
I used to party an drink a lot,because there was no1 to keep track of me yet a lot of money was left for just me(sis away in university,brother in a boarding school)..so i did whatever i wanted,literally.
Now i work hard in school,i get much better grades even though i have a baby with me all the time after school…i only take half days in school…as i dont want my baby son to be brought up like me.
I am proud of the way i matured,yes i have help from my family 100% financially,but they seriously dont mind,in my family money is nothing because honestly thats what makes my mom flip..she just does not know what she wants anymore,as she has everything.
The whole point of this is that u can actually rely on ur parents in many cases,and u do..but just do not notice it all,until its gone,and its true.
ohh and 14 and married..COME ON…we’re not five !
sorry for it being long
xoxo