why do people automatically assume teenagers are jerks?
You’d be mad too if you were stuck in an institutionalized school where you do nothing all day and the teachers just go through the motions. From the moment teenagers are mature enough to realize how boring and pointless school actually is, they form groups in order to get through school and school becomes more of a social thing rather than a learning thing. Its basically like prison. prisoners are forced to create a hierarchy, almost subconsciously since there is no other indicator of success or skill, people gradually fall into one or the other. A concept called popularity arises, which often is counterproductive and isn’t much help. Less smart kids ask the smart kids to “help” them academically, yet secretly envy them because they know the smart kids will have better lives in the future.
teenagers are mature enough to start wondering about where they fit in the hierarchy, start experimenting, and yet they are not mature enough to understand that this hierarchy has no significance in real life, that ultimately their family is much more important than their friends, who will simply lose contact after graduation day. When teenagers finally snap out of it, over the years they will forget what it was like to be a teenager themselves. As teenagers get older, they will realize how close they are to being a full adult, wonder about how they will be as an adult, and are horrified at the thought of having that responsibility forced upon them.
Therefore, teenagers will try to procrastinate the sudden responsibilities, be annoyed at their parents as if they are part of the process, and escape to their carefree world with their friends who they believe care about them more than their parents because their friends don’t try to change them in any way because, frankly, they don’t care. On the other hand their parents are always demanding, bothering, overbearing or overprotective, which they will interpret to be their parents being self-centered, when all they want is the best for their child.
Teenagers aren’t jerks, meanies or cruel. They are simply confused, they feel as if the world wasn’t made for them.
also, im not attacking parents. im simply stating some of the ways a teenager might feel about their parents from their point of view.
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well by ‘people ” i assume you mean our parent’s generation and older, and the fact is that when they were teens, they had a lot more manners and respect then us on average, and you have to admit, our generation is almost completely a bunch of *** holes. Like the first sentence you wrote, “You’d be mad too if. . . ” implying that you already know the truth of the matter. And if you ask me, we don’t create a hiearchy at school out of boredom; it is completely out of instinct, of course. The younger you are, the more primal and instinctual you are. By the time we get jobs and join the rat race, the last vestiges of our instincts are replaced with modern human life.
Yep. Been there, done that, got the Tee-Shirt.
The flipside is that the modern world with all its changes scares the s*** out of many older people who are weighed down with all the responsibilities of life. Unruly and unhelpful teens can therefore seem like an extra and unecessary burden and even a threat. I guess it’s been like that since mankind got ‘civilized’ and teens who didn’t learn adult ways quickly enough no longer got eaten by the lions.
1)let’s get some things straight,a school is an institution which can contain various divisions and departments that should be listed in their own section,The school can contain projects for developing learning resources.There are no learning resources,this is why a lot of people find schools “useless” but schools train you to later enter in college or university.
2)if you find it boring,then I’m sorry,Life isn’t all rainbows and puppies,it’s time for everybody(not just teens) to realize this.
3)Teenagers are not jerks,it’s a fallacious generalization nonetheless and should not be given any serious attention to it.
4)while there are such bad parents but there are also parents who REALLY do want the best for their child.
I agree,teenagers aren’t jerks,meanies or cruel(however,like in every people,there are the exceptions).
Because the media portrays them as jerks.