Rachel asked:


So Im going to sleepaway tomorrow for week and after asking a previous question,Im not so worried about being homesick,but I worried about saying goodbye,My mom will be alone for a week because my little brother’s at my cousin’s house and my dad works late and she’s used to always having one of us with her.When she drives me to camp,how can I say “bye” the easiest wthout tearing up or crying like last time?Any tips?If your going to be rude,please dont waste your time.I can be independant,I just really dont leave home that often besides sleepovers

babydoll130830 asked:


My children do not agree with our parenting schedule. They want more time with me (mom) and they want to have a say as far as being able to go on vacations with their step father and I regardless of their father’s parenting time. What are their options and do they have any? They are 14 and 16.

Frackaakatita asked:


I am almost 16 years old, and cant wait to be 16. My mom and I cannot stop arguing, it is constant. My friends are often over, and my mom is almost always working. But, she continually says it is my ATTITUDE?? I cant figure it out! Oh, and its my TONE of Voice?

Does anyone have any ideas how to fix this, or what to do?
Please Help! I’ll take anything.
Thanks!

Harlequin asked:


I’m a teenager, not a mom first of all. I’m just asking this to see what other people think.

Like, do you moniter what your kids do on the computer? (why/why not?)
read diaries?
snoop in their belongings?

anything else really. I’m just curious how other parents are.

Many parents seem to be more than a little confused about what they have a right to know about their teens.

The question I often get goes something like this:

“We want to know where our 16-year-old son is going to be, and who he is with. He makes it sound as if we are the most out-of-it parents, and that it is abusively embarrassing to him that we want to know what he and his friends are doing. Are we being fair?”

You have the right, need and obligation to know all these things, and more. I believe that every parent of a teen has the right to know and the crucial need to know several pieces of information that I call the W’s.

These crucial W’s are:

1) Who they are spending time with. One of the most powerful forces in the life of a teen is influence: of parents, media, culture and especially friends.

With friends, it’s not the question of can your children be influenced, but how they will be influenced. We have come to use the cliche of peer pressure, but this is really about influence.

One of the clearest warning signs of problems is when a teen has two sets of friends _ one that the parents know, and one the parents have never seen and your kid does not want you to see.

Your teen does not want you to see them for a reason, and it’s not a good one. A good rule of thumb is that your teen is not allowed to go anywhere with someone you have not at least met. Another simple but little-used strategy is to know the parents of your teen’s friends. Also, if you can make your home the hub of his or her circle of friends, where lots of activity takes place or at least begins, you have a good thing going.

2) What they are going to be doing. “But Mom, (stretched into a two or three syllable word) we don’t know what we are going to be doing!” Possible answers _ “Well, you’ll need to know the answer, and then I’ll need to know the answer before you can go” or “That’s fine for now, when you decide you must let me know.”

Another one you will hear is “But everyone else gets to do it!” This is one the Top 10 things never to believe. It’s just not true. Everyone else does not get to do it. And even if they did, you as a parent still have the right to say no.

3) Where they are going. The what and the where go together, and the same rules apply. Watch out for the scam where Billy tells his parents that he is going to Bobby’s house, and Bobby tells his parents he is going to Billy’s house. This one can be easily handled and checked on when you know the parents of your teen’s friends.

4) When will they be back. This brings up the pleasant issue of curfew. The dilemma: Parents want kids home at a certain time, kids want to stay out later.

I’ve never encountered the situation where a kid wanted his curfew to be earlier. Solution: The parents pick a curfew time. Notice I said the parents and not the parents and kids. This one begins with the parents, and then it’s up to the kids to earn more.

While we are at it, let’s define late. Late is late, and 10 p.m. is 10 p.m., unless there is something major that is unavoidable. If you consistently make 10:10 acceptable and not late, you send the message that the rules don’t really count, and you foster more and more lateness, not to mention giving up your power as a parent.

If the curfew is kept for three months, an additional 15 minutes is added. If they are late during the three months, the three-month earning period starts over from that point.

This model represents the real world where privileges are not just given but earned based on performance.

I’ve seen more than one family make this a very smooth process by requiring that a small form be filled out, answering all the W’s before a request to go out is even considered.

Now, a word of warning:

Your teens will not like this. That’s OK because that is not the point. The point is to teach responsibility and other things about the real world, and make this labor-intensive job of parenting a teen just a little less stressful.

While requiring your teens to obey the W’s may not be easy, it sure can help you to avoid some other loathsome W’s, such as: Waiting up until the Wee hours of the morning, Wondering and Worrying.

By: Jeff Herring

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yeppp. asked:


and have an ‘attitude’
Im 15, i noticed that ive been acting like a b i t c h to my mom a lot lately. The little things that she says and does bother me..

SueBlaney asked:

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. asked:


I am 15 years old, and recently my mom has started yelling at me too much for stupid reasons.

Anyways she used to act normal just 1 1/2 years ago and it is a recent thing that she started acting mean. For example I was in my room studying , and she told me to come in the kitchen, and since I couldnt hear her, she yelled at me later for not listening. When I was younger she would actually call my name and when I would respond she would tell me what to do, now she just tells me to do something without seeing if I am busy, or I am even close by her or not.

Anyways she also complains that I make her life horrible, and my dad also yells at me for making me for making my mom feel that way. But compared to when I was younger I do 4 times as much work, and instead of thanking me, they yell at me.

Now I make breakfast on weekends, and during weekdays I make my own breakfast. I mow the lawn about once a week. I babysit my sister during the day when my parents are at work. Vacuming, laundry
I meant that I vacuum the rooms and help with the laundry, I also help wash the dishes but anyways they dont appreciate any of the things I do, all they think about how I dont listen to them, when the real reason is that I am either paying attention to something else, so I cant listen, or I am too far away to even understand what they are saying. As if they are ignoring all the things I do, and when I say that I do all of these things, all they say that those are my responsibilites and I should happily do them, just like my parents happily go to work without complaining.
she is 45 years old, I dont want to go into the discussion of what is going on with her right now, but just for your information I have a sister who is almost 2 years old. Maybe that could be stressing her out, because my sister is very annoying
haha, ms. Lizard, you cannot even spell simple words correctly.

and by the way how old are you, you didnt even answer my question, the reason I asked is because my parents yell, not because of my resposibilities. So why dont you go back to fourth grade and learn your spelling.

greenburg603 asked:


I just watched a teenager get mad at her parents. Actually it was one of my friends. She was buying a gift for her dads birthday and the mother and daughter went shooping. Well, the dad went with. He seemed to not even care about anyones feeling not even his daughters feelings. He was like who cares don’t buy me a present. She came home and went to her room.She got mad at her mom because she forgot the daughter wanted to go shooping for her dad’s birthday gift. She looked like she felt like she was not wanted. I also saw her just lock herself in her romm. The parents came in to see how everything was and they didn’t even realize she was upset even though she was crying because of the whole situation. I huggd her and said everything was going to be al right. How could two parents not realize that their teenager is upset? She started crying and they could not see that. I call ed her on the phone to make sure she is okay and she is but she is very upset.I called her and she is upset still

ifoundapennyonheads asked:


I, as a teenager, nearly 18, don’t think that grounding works. It makes me spiteful and has never changedmein the least. I recently read a resed question that asked if they thought grounding their children to his/her rooms when hsher grade fell below a C. This idea seems ridiculous to me because I know that I’ve taken classes to push me, to make me think, and i certainly knew I wouldn’t be getting any sort of A in that class. I did end up with D+ and i was happy because on paper it said that I hadn’t learned squat but I knew, personally that I took more in that class than any class I have ever taken. My mom understood this, and she didn’t ground me. And yes, she normally would ground me if I did have B- or worst. I us want to hera some reasoning behind this. Somehow it just makes more sense to me to give them a list of chores to doit with them while thye do thier homework, or at least to check on them than go online and only see the paper that shows nothing.
Please, don’t call me spoiled. I’v helped my mother raise my two sisters since they were two years old. They are now five years old. And I bust my **** at my job. I don’t get grounded very often, and I’m not whinging in the least. I just don’t understand why you (parents) think it works. I’ve tried discussing this with my mom, but she isn’t really one for talking, she’s a yeller. So … since I can’t get a solid answer from her, I’m reaching out by her means. And btw, my spelling and grammar seemed so poor before because I was in a rush to get to my doctor and my keyboard is a POS. I’m surprised by how quickly some of you judge.